Jumping in to start your new career can be scary. It takes commitment, and it takes work. Lot of work. People know this, but one thing which is not much talked about is that it also takes courage.
The fear of failure keeps many people from taking the first step towards making their dreams come true.
Is the fear of failure holding you back from making the commitment to take risks? If so, know that you are not alone. It is human nature to have this reaction. The question is, will you let the fear of failure cripple you, or will you face your fear and move on to it in 2018?
The fact is, committing to starting your new career is a difficult decision. How will I know? I went there.
I was working full time as a web developer at PayPal which most people considered successful. I worked as a web developer at a few companies, two of which were acquired for millions of dollars. My work/life balance was excellent and my parents were proud.
I knew in my heart that I wanted to start a company and loved teaching web development, but pulling the trigger by giving my two weeks notice to start a business teaching web development was a difficult decision. Not because I thought it was the wrong decision – but because I knew building a business was a bit too risky – what if I failed?
I pulled the trigger and gave my 2 weeks notice. I told my friends, family, and coworkers – even though I was scared. Some people believed in me. Other people didn’t. But I faced my fear and went for it.
From that moment on, the question, “What do you do?” Can’t be answered with “I have a job”, the safe answer everyone expects to hear.
As soon as I decided to go for it, I was committed. Before this point, I was half. I was somewhat productive, doing some work but unwilling to go out of my comfort zone. Once the world knew, I had to do whatever it took to make it happen.
The process of telling everyone else what I was doing kept me from caring about “how such a thing would react.” I finally knew because I told them. When I stopped thinking through random scenarios, I eventually focused 100% on the only thing that mattered to me – building the best company I was able to build.
Before I knew it, I was running a coding workshop marco (my co-founder in the Firehose project) at some of the best universities in the country. Universities like Harvard Business School, Carnegie Mellon, Babson, Rhode Island School of Design, Brown, and more. Luckily, things worked out for me.
This process taught me a lot about making real progress toward lofty goals. The fastest way to achieve your goals is to stay out of your comfort zone. Most of the times it’s easier said than done, and people tend to give it a lot of lip service, but instead of giving you a lot of “stay-stay, just do it,” here are some realities to help you face your fears in 2018. Will do ,
Reality #1: It’s Scary How Little People Care About What You Do
People spend a lot of time thinking about how they look in the eyes of other people. The dirty secret is that we probably spend more time thinking about what they think of us than they think of us.
People’s lives are busier than ever. You’ll often be surprised (maybe even disappointed) by the reaction you get when you bite the bullet. In most cases, they’ll probably just say, “Well, go for it, but I’m here in my world about stuff.” I’m too busy worrying.”
How you spend the hours of your day is far less important to most people than you think, and most people don’t even have the energy to judge you.
Reality #2: But If You’re Lucky, Someone Will Tell You You’re A Fool And You’re Ruining Your Life
Nothing is a better motivator than the desire to prove someone wrong. The sweet taste of being able to say “told you” in 6 months, 12 months, or 2 years will get you through tough times – and probably tough times if you’re shooting for something ambitious.
Let their disapproval be the engine that drives you to start your new career.
Reality #3: You’re definitely going to fail (in some way)
Chances are, not everything will “click” right off the bat, and that’s okay.
You’re probably going to mess up the first time. The question is, when you fail, will you keep on going for it or give up? It may take 10 times, 100 times, even 1,000 times, but if you put your whole heart into something, I firmly believe that you are going to win in the long run.
You need to be flexible. Never give up until you start your new career.
have confidence everything when you’re playing the long game
When rejection happens—which is inevitable—you can’t let it get to you.
For example, you’re probably going to be rejected from a job interview at some point. everyone does. You can frame this in your mind in two ways. Many people will lose confidence from the experience. They would think something like this:
The fact that some random dude doesn’t think I’d be a good fit for the position means I’m a terrible developer and not qualified to get the job. I must leave now. Maybe I should go back to work for the job I hate.
Confident people are wired differently. First, they’ll analyze the situation: Is there a logical reason why it’s not a good fit? Do they think you’re an expert in MongoDB and need deeper expertise that you don’t have? The skills you have that are solid and incredibly valuable can’t potentially be the reason you didn’t get a job offer.
Maybe there’s just one candidate whose tool belt is more aligned with the job involved. It doesn’t mean that your skills are bad.
But even if it doesn’t – stop feeling bad for yourself and mentally move on to the next opportunity. Think like this:
It’s unfortunate that the hiring manager wasn’t smart enough to realize how much I would walk out of the park in that situation. The company I am working for would benefit from the mistake of this hiring manager.
You need to play the long game at full offence. If you haven’t spent 6+ months working, you should keep going. Let each setback inspire you to work harder, while expending even more energy to launch your new career.
If you’re shooting for a large target, you may not be able to invest partially. Let failure motivate you to come back with enthusiasm, not demoralize you. Aim to quickly try and fail everything you think could possibly work. Rinse-and-repeat day after day, and 2018 will be the year you start your new career.
You have one life. Don’t waste it playing it safe.
Playing it safe is largely exaggerated; The sooner you put yourself in a position to fail, the sooner you will be ready to succeed. You can either live your life trying to prevent failure, or you can live your life chasing success, but you can’t have both.
The sooner you put yourself out there, the sooner you will fail. End of story If you fall down, are you going to get back up?
I want you to know that if you hate what you’re doing every day and are seriously considering making the move to start your new career, start a business, or really anything, Then you should go for it.
Taking a risk in 2018 may be the smartest, most practical decision ever, even if the rest of the world thinks you’re crazy.